Comments on: Was this supposed to be uplifting or comforting? http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/ Sat, 19 May 2012 03:46:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Jennifer Juniper http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-683 Jennifer Juniper Mon, 18 Jun 2007 16:07:26 +0000 http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-683 the key phrase that you mentioned is that YOU are ready to settle down now. this guy that i was talking to was not wanting to do this, therefore, it is a "deal breaker" to me. j.j. the key phrase that you mentioned is that YOU are ready to settle down now. this guy that i was talking to was not wanting to do this, therefore, it is a “deal breaker” to me.

j.j.

]]> By: cephyn http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-676 cephyn Fri, 15 Jun 2007 17:56:59 +0000 http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-676 sure there's a certain amount of "settling" that needs to take place. Everyone has their own quirks, you just need to find someone who's quirks don't bother you much, and vice versa. That article though....her existence sounds pretty unfulfilling to me. Maybe you should just date a guy who's 50 who is ready for kids! And I'm ready to settle down now but I can't find the right person. If that continues til I'm 40, that's going to be held against me? 8( And well, at least people talk to you on match.com. sure there’s a certain amount of “settling” that needs to take place. Everyone has their own quirks, you just need to find someone who’s quirks don’t bother you much, and vice versa. That article though….her existence sounds pretty unfulfilling to me.

Maybe you should just date a guy who’s 50 who is ready for kids! And I’m ready to settle down now but I can’t find the right person. If that continues til I’m 40, that’s going to be held against me? 8(

And well, at least people talk to you on match.com.

]]> By: Jennifer Juniper http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-675 Jennifer Juniper Fri, 15 Jun 2007 16:11:03 +0000 http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-675 you know these is a lot of truth to her statement! companies like e-harmony and match.com stay in business by promising you "your soul mate is out there in cyberspace, and if you pay us enough money for long enough, you will find him/her." there is a point when you do have to "settle" but you need to know exactly what you are willing to settle for and what you will not. your "must have's/can't stands" or "deal breakers" as people call them. i have to say that at 33, i am still learning what my deal breakers are. it used to be that if he is divorced or has kids, that was a deal breaker, but now i am not so sure. i have to say, at my age, finding someone who hasn't been married is becoming more difficult. and who really wants a 40 year old who has never settled down? chances are, he isn't ready now to do so either! i was talking to some guy from match.com last night who is 37 and going on about how he isn't in a hurry to have kids, he can always do it when he is 50. bully for him! i am not going to date a guy who doesn't want to have kids until he is 50! sorry, there is my "deal breaker" right there! j.j. you know these is a lot of truth to her statement! companies like e-harmony and match.com stay in business by promising you “your soul mate is out there in cyberspace, and if you pay us enough money for long enough, you will find him/her.” there is a point when you do have to “settle” but you need to know exactly what you are willing to settle for and what you will not. your “must have’s/can’t stands” or “deal breakers” as people call them. i have to say that at 33, i am still learning what my deal breakers are. it used to be that if he is divorced or has kids, that was a deal breaker, but now i am not so sure. i have to say, at my age, finding someone who hasn’t been married is becoming more difficult. and who really wants a 40 year old who has never settled down? chances are, he isn’t ready now to do so either! i was talking to some guy from match.com last night who is 37 and going on about how he isn’t in a hurry to have kids, he can always do it when he is 50. bully for him! i am not going to date a guy who doesn’t want to have kids until he is 50! sorry, there is my “deal breaker” right there!

j.j.

]]> By: Vanilla Spice http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-673 Vanilla Spice Wed, 13 Jun 2007 01:00:21 +0000 http://cephyn.com/2007/06/12/was-this-supposed-to-be-uplifting-or-comforting/#comment-673 Ah, yes, I heard that as part of the "This I Believe" series on <i>All Things Considered</i>. A lot of my oral stories recently have begun with the words, "So, I heard this thing on NPR..." I think the operative paragraph in the piece is the one about accepting. It just smacks so much of Niebuhr's unoficially titled "serenity prayer" without all the creepy AA associations. Ah, yes, I heard that as part of the “This I Believe” series on All Things Considered. A lot of my oral stories recently have begun with the words, “So, I heard this thing on NPR…”

I think the operative paragraph in the piece is the one about accepting. It just smacks so much of Niebuhr’s unoficially titled “serenity prayer” without all the creepy AA associations.

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